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Changqing and Zixuan: Fate, love and letting go

Written by lovelikethis

‘They’re in love with each other. Why couldn’t Changqing and Zixuan stay together in the end?”

This question constantly comes up during the final heartbreaking scene where the couple “forget each other”. Their love spanned for over 200 years in three-life times, aren’t they fated to be together? Why, after everything they’ve been through, does Zixuan force him to ‘let go’? Isn’t it somewhat selfish on Zixuan’s part for insisting to be involved in his life (when Changqing resisted) and when he finally admits how much he loves her, she makes him just “forget everything”. Shouldn’t he have the right to choose his own happiness, and make decisions for himself?

It’s not all as simple as that. Zixuan was mistaken in the beginning of their third lifetime together. At first, she was given false hope because she realized that Changqing still remembers some of their memories together (during that scene when she finds him unconscious leaning on a tree in the forest). So because she thought that he’d be lonely without her (and because she always wants the best for him), she was mistaken in believing that the best thing to do is to get back with him, because at that time she thought that if Changqing still remembers her, those remaining memories and her love for him was enough for her to pursue him again. She thought that somewhere deep in his heart, he must have some kind of yearning for her if he was still able to remember her even after his memories were sealed, and this is why it made her want to be with him again and believed that her fate was to be together with Changqing one last time.

Zixuan’s problem was that she was just too much in love. She loves hard and she loves deeply, so much that she even prevented her own child from growing just so she could be with Changqing again. That should already say a lot about the love she has for him. So the whole time, my impression was that she was just holding onto the past, and couldn’t bring herself to let go after seeing that Changqing somewhat remembered her. There may be a few other reasons as to why she wasn’t able to let go, but I think this is one of the biggest reasons. It wasn’t until later on, after going through so much together, that their time together made her realize what was more important. It’s twisted I know, but that’s just how things work sometimes. It doesn’t always make sense, but it happens. Life is twisted that way. As Changqing himself stated in his letter to Jing Tian: “One must experience emotions before one is able to overcome them.” Likewise, Shenggu herself once told Zixuan: “You must go through it, before you can overcome it.”

It’s true that what she did was selfish, but in the end, she did make the right choice. She finally realized that she was wrong (cause when you’re in love, you don’t always do the “right” thing, and you usually just follow your heart) and through this found the strength to let go. During an episode when Zixuan was talking to Shenggu, she mentioned Changqing dying an unfair death in their second lifetime; so another reason why I think she couldn’t let go of Changqing was because she still needed closure from what had happened in their past. Zixuan confided in Shenggu that she wanted to wait for Changqing to be reincarnated into his next life so she could explain to him that the person in her heart has always been him. Her exact words were, “I must make it up to him… and give him happiness.” The incident of Changqing/Yeping getting stabbed to death most likely left her traumatized (obviously since she loves him with all her heart) and probably scarred her badly so that’s why she still wasn’t able to let go of Changqing yet.

In another way, their time together in the third lifetime gave her closure and she was finally able to move past such a traumatic event (Yeping’s death). So there’s a whole lot of baggage and pain involved in this couple’s relationship; it’s not just all black and white. It also seemed like Changqing was heavily scarred too. The first thing he says to Zixuan when he started remembering their past lives together he yells at her “tell me, who else is in your heart?!” And then after he wakes up in Nuwa’s temple, he was crying and in so much pain because all of those old emotions of hurt and loss that he experienced with Zixuan in their previous lives started coming back to him. So it looks as if they both were hurting badly (it’s just that Changqing didn’t remember it like how Zixuan did until she appeared again in order to save his life). The time they spent together in their third lifetime probably did more good than bad for the both of them. At least they finally got to resolve their problems, and move on with only good memories and the love they both have for each other in their hearts (now that Changqing knows for sure that he’s always been the only man in Zixuan’s heart). So even though their separation was a sad ending, it was also a good ending. I think it’s the best ending to a love that lasted for 200 years. Especially for a love that’s forbidden by heaven.

Related posts:

  1. Zixuan loving selflessly
  2. Zixuan’s life as a Nuwa descendant

Tags: 仙劍奇俠傳三, 徐長卿, 紫萱, 顧留芳, Gu Liu Fang, Lin Ye Ping, Xu Changqing, Zi Xuan, 林業平

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16 Comments

  1. Lexie C. says:
    June 17, 2010 at 4:45 pm

    I haven’t finished the series yet (on episode 31) so I just totally spoiled myself here (I couldn’t help myself…).

    I think you’re right. I got the impression from the beginning that Zi Xuan loved him, but it wasn’t a healthy kind of love. It was an all-consuming obsession almost, which makes sense. Despite how ‘old’ she was by the time Changqing came around, she began loving him (as Liufeng) when she was 16 years old. That ended badly (and I can’t help but think she resented Shenggu for healing her), then in his next life as Ye Ping, it seemed like she got everything she could ask for…except she couldn’t explain herself properly. So that too ended badly.

    And now there’s Changqing, who she promised to stay away from but couldn’t. Who lived a content, if not joyous, life as a Shusan disciple. Baggage from Liufeng + baggage from Ye Ping = one seriously messed up emotional caravan for Zi Xuan after seeing Changqing again. And yes some of that stemmed from her inability to let go of the past, but I wonder if she had been able to live a happy life–with either Liufeng or Ye Ping–if she would have sought out Changqing?

    Subconsciously I knew they wouldn’t end up together. When they start tossing around ‘forbidden by heaven’ its never a good thing. Plus it didn’t seem like they were together because Zi Xuan and Changqing wanted to be together, it felt more like Zi Xuan wanted to be with Liufeng (I felt this way when she was with Ye Ping too quite frankly). Her love was always for Liufeng, where she made the mistake was that she let outward appearances and reincarnated memories delude her into thinking they are the same person.

    Even thinking all that I wanted them to end up together. Sigh, well that’s why there’s fandom!

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  2. Chibi Jennifer says:
    June 17, 2010 at 10:04 pm

    Hi Lexie,
    Thanks for leaving your thoughts :) I’m sorry to hear it kinda spoiled for you, but luckily we didn’t go into too much details of the events which occurred from episode 31 onwards so there should still be some surprises.

    When I was watching the drama, I actually had no idea if they’d end up together or not- I was really really hopeful..and worried at the same time ^^; I really do love these two and find it sad that they couldn’t be together.

    Plus it didn’t seem like they were together because Zi Xuan and Changqing wanted to be together, it felt more like Zi Xuan wanted to be with Liufeng (I felt this way when she was with Ye Ping too quite frankly). Her love was always for Liufeng, where she made the mistake was that she let outward appearances and reincarnated memories delude her into thinking they are the same person.

    I really believe both Changqing and Zi Xuan wanted to be together. I actually agree with Zi Xuan in that Changqing is Gu Liu Fang and Lin Ye Ping (I might even write a whole article on this argument actually, we’ll see) If Changqing really was just the same face, why does his memory of her remain? I know it’s all fantasy and fictional, but what person who reincarnates remembers their love and feelings from their previous life? I think this in itself says a lot about Changqing’s character and person, and to unite with Zi Xuan one last time was his destiny.

    On the other hand, it’s clearly different for Jing Tian’s story. He is the reincarnation of Fei Peng and Long Yang- but there’s emphasis they are completely different people. His feelings for both Xi Yao and Long Kui in the past do not remain, and he never retained his memory of them alone..

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  3. Lexie C. says:
    June 18, 2010 at 5:43 pm

    I wonder if some of it is because of the way that Lui Fang and Ye Ping died, the unfinished business they had with Zi Xuan that affected Changqing remembering his past two incarnations with her. It would be a massive understatement to say that those two had a lot to work out. Plus Changqing’s past selves seemed more contemplative then either of Jing Tian’s. Fei Peng accepted his punishment (or he seems to have as far as I’ve seen) and Long Yang seemed resigned to his death as long as his sister was safe. Neither of them carried regrets with them I don’t think (heck Fei Peng was looking forward to being mortal).

    Stories of reincarnation and past lives always make me do a double take on the romance angle. As you said he remembers those feelings of love from his past reincarnations–for a guy who was raised in a very sheltered way, with little contact with women or romantic love (I’m assuming Xue Jian is the first to proposition him for marriage…) I could see those feelings overwhelming him and being unable to distinguish between then and now. Especially since those old men screwed with his memories some. Not that I feel he felt as if it was his obligation to love her because of their past history, but more he let himself fall into those feelings instead of gradually coming into them.

    Zi Yuan…I’ll have to rewatch the series, but I don’t remember her expressing specific love over something individual to Changqing. Not only that, but she set up several instances of deep memories between their past lives in order to ‘coax’ him along to remembering his past love for her. She didn’t really seem to try and romance Changqing the individual, or understand him, until much later in the game. Each of her interactions with him (when he was conscious) seemed to stem from her prior knowledge of his past lives. Until (what’s a recent episode for me) recently when she saw him willing to sacrifice over and over and over again for the prisoners just because they MIGHT turn into good men (similar to his belief with Jing Tian I suppose now that I think of it) I don’t think she understood his deep commitment to saving people.

    From the way you make it sound, it seems as if Zi Yuan finally does understand how important it is for Changqing to not be with her. I honestly blame Shushan for all their meddling–if those two had had their one life together as Lui Fang and Zi Yuan, then in his next life he could have been a monk, she would have been dead by then and by Changqing’s time he’d be ready for that Immortal Stepping Block without any regrets. Of course the rest of the cast would have suffered pretty badly, but well…destiny really sucks sometimes.

    I haven’t seen Chinese Paladin 1 yet (I saw ‘prequel’ and said better start there!), but as I understand it in CP1 its yet another reincarnation of Jing Tian correct, but not another reincarnation of Xue Jian (well, I guess she can’t be re-incarnated, having not been a human to begin with?).

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    • Chibi Jennifer says:
      June 21, 2010 at 5:14 pm

      I haven’t seen Chinese Paladin 1 yet (I saw ‘prequel’ and said better start there!), but as I understand it in CP1 its yet another reincarnation of Jing Tian correct, but not another reincarnation of Xue Jian (well, I guess she can’t be re-incarnated, having not been a human to begin with?).

      Chinese Paladin 1 stars Hu Ge who plays Jing Tian from Chinese Paladin 3. However, they are completely different people and are not related at all. They just used the same actor, hehe :)

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      • Lexie C. says:
        June 26, 2010 at 12:13 am

        Ah! Another question! Li Xiao Yao pops up at the end of CP3 (I suppose techically the beginning to), how is he able to do this if his story isn’t for another 50 odd years?

      • Chibi Jennifer says:
        June 26, 2010 at 9:43 am

        There’s one stage in Chinese Paladin 1 that Li Xiaoyao travels back in time (not 50 years back) but I think that’s the general assumption that Xiaoyao did so at some later stage.. XD

  4. Trace says:
    June 21, 2010 at 2:29 pm

    “I honestly blame Shushan for all their meddling–if those two had had their one life together as Lui Fang and Zi Yuan, then in his next life he could have been a monk, she would have been dead by then and by Changqing’s time he’d be ready for that Immortal Stepping Block without any regrets. Of course the rest of the cast would have suffered pretty badly, but well…destiny really sucks sometimes.”

    I don’t blame Shushan, but I do blame Liu Fang and Zixuan. I think they should take responsibility for their own actions. It’s easy to point the finger at others for Liufang and Zixuan not being together: Heaven forbids it, Shushan was against it; and yes, even though those were obstacles that were in their way (as what many relationships have), I hold Zixuan and Liufang responsible for themselves not being together because I truly believe that they did have choice in the matter. Instead of fighting for their love, Liufang and Zixuan chose to die for it instead, which I’ve always thought was the wrong move. I know a lot of people love and admire the notion of lovers committing suicide together, showing the world that they’re willing to die for their great love and all, but I’ve never liked those kinds of endings. I’m more for the types who don’t go down without a fight.

    I actually found it dumb that Liufang’s solution to their problems was to commit suicide, and Zixuan was so blinded by love that she actually went along with it. She could have stopped him, knocked some sense into him and been like, “No, we should run away from here, go back to my home country, and live out our lives instead” but rather than giving herself a voice, she did whatever Liufang thought was best and died. Not only that but if they both had enough time to kneel down and ask heaven questions, and then kiss and talk for a few minutes, they could have had time to run further away and hide. I also wonder whether Zixuan had any powers that she could have used to help the both of them escape, but I’m not sure since she was only 19 years old here.

    This wasn’t the only time she could have done things differently. After her and Liufang shared that kiss in the forest, they went back to Shushan with Liufang telling her to be a good girl and wait for him while he goes to talk to his teachers, but what does Zixuan do? She decides to burn the buildings when she could have just stomped into the room where Liufang and his teachers were talking and used her position as the descendant of Nuwa to demand that they release him so that they could leave together. And I know that as Nuwa’s descendant, it wouldn’t be civil and appropriate behavior for her to do something like that, but Zixuan has never really been the type to abide by any rules or care for anyone else other than her love for Liufang. Besides, confronting Liufang’s teachers and convincing them (or threatening them if need be) that their best choice would be to let Liufang go and live his life with her is a much better action to take than setting their buildings on fire.

    If she would have done either of these things, I really think she and Liufang would have been able to be together and she wouldn’t have gone through 200 years of traumatic pain and suffering. Liufang would have also saved himself the pain and misery of the next two lifetimes as well.

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    • Chibi Jennifer says:
      June 21, 2010 at 5:28 pm

      Death probably shouldn’t have been their first option, but if it’s forbidden by the heavens, I don’t think there’s much that can be done. I thought it was really sad for them to come to this though, and it is unfair that the two could not be together. I say this because it was their choice to be together in death, but even then this did not happen. ShengGu saved Zi Xuan’s life against her will, so she wasn’t able to be with him.

      LiuFang is simply a mortal, and I think he should have the right to make decisions for himself and not let others dictate what is best for him. I think it didn’t really matter if Zi Xuan burnt down the place or not (by the way, I don’t think this is actually Shu Shan, unless I’m mistaken)- they were already furious and forbid LiuFang to be with her. I thought religion was a choice. What makes them think they can LIE to him? It’s not what he wanted at all..

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      • Trace says:
        June 25, 2010 at 4:47 pm

        Haha, I think many fans would have wanted one person or another or just anyone to do SOMETHING differently so that Zixuan and Liufang would be able to be together (cause they so deserve their happiness).

        But anyways, I know what you’re saying. Liufang and Zixuan were no doubt victims in this whole thing too, and they both definitely were wronged, there’s no question about that, maybe Liufang more than Zixuan. But in my eyes, there’s more to it than just that. You’re right, death shouldn’t have been their first option, but when you think about it, Heaven’s so weird anyways because Heaven meant for them to meet and fall in love but then they’re not allowed to be together. That’s so screwed up. So if Heaven’s going to be so unfair like that, then why should anybody act fairly and do whatever Heaven says if Heaven won’t do things right and fairly either? Life’s not fair, and in this world (in the CP3 world and reality), it’s really anybody’s game: people will do anything to get what they want, no matter how wrong it is. It’s the cruel hard truth. I personally don’t want it to be that way, but that’s just how life is. Look at what Shushan did, for instance. They went against their vows and lied to Liufang, even though it was completely wrong and dirty, and that really wasn’t fair for him. Yes, Liufang should have had the right to choose what he wanted for his own life, but instead Shushan dictates it for him, and that’s not fair either. There are so many things that other people did to both Liufang and Zixuan that shouldn’t have happened because it’s not fair or it’s wrong. But you can’t control what people throw at you or what life puts in your way. All you can do is choose how you will react and what you can do to make the situation better. It’s called taking control of your destiny, instead of letting destiny control you. If you let that happen, you’ll always be bending yourself to other people’s wills, or in Liufang and Zixuan’s case, Heaven’s will.

        There are so many bad things that happen to good people that shouldn’t, but that’s just how reality is: it’s not always fair, and that’s the reason why I was saying that Liufang and Zixuan should have taken matters into their own hands and at least *try* to live and see if they could make it. Because if you’re going to give up whenever things get hard, where would you be in life? (“you” in general, I’m not actually talking about you yourself) I was a bit sad that they didn’t even really try. They just took the easy way out because they found out that Heaven forbade them to be together. Liufang and Zixuan gave up (by committing suicide) before they even tried. It’s always easier to give up than to fight back and keep on living. That’s why it was a bit saddening for me. Yeah, you could say that they were pitiful and they had it hard so that’s why it’s probably better that they’d rather die and be together in death, but on the other hand, death is such an unknown thing, you never know where you’ll actually end up after death or even if you both *will* end up together. And even then, Liufang and Zixuan didn’t even end up together in death, so they both gave up and jumped to their deaths without getting what they really wanted either way. This should conclude that the ‘being-together-in-death’ option isn’t such a good choice.

        And it’s not just that death is so unknown, it’s also that.. what life isn’t hard? You can say they had it hard because heaven wouldn’t allow them to be together, but everybody goes through hard times too… and there are also so many people who are burdened by so many misfortunes (because it was ‘fate’ that those things happen to them), but do people go and commit suicide just because they didn’t win a modeling competition, or they keep falling off from practicing how to ride a bike for the first time, or it was their fate that they were born into poverty, or they’re a single parent and because nobody would help them, they have to *try* to support and take care of their child on their own? They didn’t want to be born into poverty, they didn’t ask to be poor, but it happened to them anyways, because life is like that. It doesn’t always go the way you want it to. However, these people who also have a really hard time.. they don’t give up. The strong don’t seek death as a way out, but try and try again, and in time, they might or might not make their dreams come true, BUT at least they never gave up. In my opinion, Liufang and Zixuan believed in being together, they just gave up and that’s why they chose death.

        Besides, even if there wasn’t much that Liufang and Zixuan could have done, who says that you have to always let Heaven make the decisions? Yeah, Heaven doesn’t allow you be with the one you love, but does that mean that you and your lover have to kill yourselves? You say that Liufang should have the right to make decisions for himself because it is his life after all, but is that also not the same for the case with Heaven imposing its will on Zixuan and his relationship? If Liufang and Zixuan wanted to be together, shouldn’t they have the right to also make a different decision? — one that isn’t death, but LIFE. I’m sure they would have chosen life if Heaven didn’t forbid them being together, but because Heaven did, they chose death. Liufang and Zixuan had a really good thing, but it’s nothing new to know that when you have a good thing, people will always try to divide it for their own gains. Life will always try to break you down, and people will always try to get in your way and hurt you, and this is the reason why I say that at some point, a person has to take responsibility for themselves and choose how to react to the things they can’t control. Anyhow, I know that this is probably split into two sides: some people prefer Liufang and Zixuan committing suicide because heaven forbids them to be together, and on the other side others prefer them to have at least tried to see if they could have escaped and find a way to be together first, where Zixuan and Liufang could have had a baby, instead of Zixuan coming back in his next lifetime as Yeping and getting back together with him again so that she could give birth to an heir. My point to all of this is that, things happen, that’s just how life is, but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try to take control of your own destiny, since it is your life after all. At least try and try, through thick and thin, wind or rain, sweat and tears, before giving up completely.. that’s all that I ask.

      • Trace says:
        June 25, 2010 at 5:31 pm

        “I think it didn’t really matter if Zi Xuan burnt down the place or not (by the way, I don’t think this is actually Shu Shan, unless I’m mistaken)- they were already furious and forbid LiuFang to be with her.”

        Oh! You know what else I was thinking, after Liufang and Zixuan kissed in the forest they should have just eloped together and run far away from there, lmao. And leave everybody wondering where he went. Of course they’d send search parties out, but it wouldn’t go on for long.

      • Lexie C. says:
        June 26, 2010 at 12:33 am

        Ah I assumed it was Shu Shan because I couldn’t think of any other reason for Zi Xuan to bring baby Changqing to them instead of some other Sect, unless his past incarnations were rooted in Shu Shan.

      • Trace says:
        June 26, 2010 at 6:49 am

        I finally got some time to go back and take a look, although I didn’t have enough time to watch the entire episode 17, I did find out that it was Xuan Shrine that Zixuan burned. I didn’t get the name of the place though. I agree that I don’t think it was Shushan either, but I don’t know what that place is called.

    • Lexie C. says:
      June 26, 2010 at 12:31 am

      I can understand wanting to take responsibility for your actions, and I don’t think double suicide is the answer, but with in their personalities and experiences I don’t think it occurred to either one to fight for their love. I don’t know Liufang’s past (other then being a disciple), but I’m assuming he was at the Temple from a young age. Sheltered from the outside world and the machinations thereof, taught to respect the Leaders’ opinions and authority without fail. They lied to him, but I think that only served to feed whatever guilt he had over flaunting Heaven’s Law, especially as they said it was for his own good.

      Zi Xuan was also brought up in a sheltered life. I got the feeling as if her trip out with Sheng Gu, when she first meets Liufang, was one of her first (if not her first) amongst people not of Nuwa descent. She was young (16), highly impressionable, her hormones were raging and she was ‘drunk’ on the knowledge that she is in love (didn’t seem as if Sheng Gu thought to mention the dire fate of love for Nuwa Descendents…). She is so certain of that love for 3 years, so certain of Liufang, that when it seems to come to nothing she is lost. She’s feeling bereft and despairing. But wait! Liufang thought her dead that’s why he didn’t talk to her, or meet her, or try to seek her out! I’m willing to bet her feelings went into overload mode at that point.

      But she was used to having her way, to people showing her reverence for being a Nuwa Descendent, and then also she blames the Leaders for their cowardice and pettyness in trying to keep Liufang from her. She’s not thinking too clear and her crime of passion is the fire she wrought.

      The two fo them are so certain in their love, so certain that it must be the best thing ever, that no one understands how they feel. Having Heaven turn its back on them was just another blow, the final blow. Their emotions being immature (comparatively speaking), their hearts desperate and minds in overload…dying together must have seemed like the only possible choice.

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      • Trace says:
        June 26, 2010 at 8:59 am

        Yep, exactly. Sheltered, personalities, raised and taught to respect authority and the ‘higher powers’, neither had enough ‘worldly’ experience or knowledge to know what might have been ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, and their decision to jump off the cliff was actually ruled by their emotions alone if you really think about it. Especially Zixuan, she just did it because she loved Liufang and he chose to do it. That’s not a good way to go.. to do something just because someone else is doing it.. eek. The path she was treading was to do and obey whatever the man she loved chose… that was love for her. I get that. But that’s not a way of loving that allows a person to think for themselves, or to think clearly at all. She wasn’t loving in a way that gave her mind freedom and choice.. she handed all of it over to Liufang, and your reasons have perfectly explained why.

        There are surely a lot of different ways to love, but Zixuan’s way of loving was probably one of the unhealthiest, and look where it got her. They definitely weren’t thinking clearly, and it’s understandable why. I just went into emphasis on why the suicide wasn’t my idea of a good idea, and why I believe that Liufang and Zixuan should take responsibility for their own actions instead of putting the blame on everyone else’s doings and everything else that they couldn’t control.

        And let me just make myself clear that I am NOT trying to criticize Liufang and Zixuan for the choices they made. That’s neither my intention nor what I’m trying to do. I understand that the kind of outcome where they jump to their deaths was most likely inevitable, and I accept that. I’m also not saying that Liufang and Zixuan themselves are at fault for what others have wronged them of. I understand that we all have problems and we all have reasons for why we are the way we are. What I’m merely saying is that why should we, us fans, always point the finger at *others* for the choices and actions that Liufang and Zixuan made? Yes, I know that their choices were made based on their own personalities, little experience and knowledge, but does that all of a sudden make it *right* to blame everything else on OTHER people? For instance, a child grew up in a home of alcoholics and smokers and started smoking and drinking at a really young age, because it was the kind of life he/she was brought up in and the only life they knew… but as they grow older, does that mean that that person should keep on blaming others for the way they turned out and never take responsibility for themselves and quit?
        If a father abuses his child because that’s the way his own father raised him (using hitting and slapping as a form of discipline), then should we all blame the father’s father and not blame the father himself for hitting his own child? I mean damn, we should all feel sorry for the father and say, “oh but his father hit him so that’s why he’s the way he is, and that’s why it makes it okay for him to not take responsibility for his own actions.. that’s totally understandable”. These people didn’t want to grow up in such an unstable and unhealthy household. They didn’t *ask* to be hit and slapped as a child by their own parent. It’s not what they or anybody else would have wanted for them at all. But because life had it that way, does that all of a sudden make it *all right* to not take responsibility for themselves and their own choices, just because of the way they were raised? And I’m not even saying that you shouldn’t feel sorry for others who are less fortunate.. not at all… but at SOME point, a person has to draw the line between what they know they couldn’t control, and what they know they can take responsibility for.

        But now, all of a sudden actions don’t have consequences because people are always blaming other people and never looking to themselves and saying that maybe they should start healing themselves and choosing how they’ll better their lives? Get what I mean? I don’t know about others, but I was raised knowing that there are consequences to my actions (positive and negative). From my own life experiences, I’ve been taught and learned that whenever I make mistakes, I can only learn from them and blame myself, and by doing that, I *learn* to take responsibility for myself. A lot of people will always be screwing you over, one way or another, but if you’re always putting the blame on others, wouldn’t you always be going around in circles? Never knowing how to better YOURSELF and *your life*? The hardest thing for people to do is to look inward toward themselves, because it’s always easier to blame others for your own hardships and mistakes. Instead, why not take responsibility for yourself and learn from your mistakes? When you do that, you become a fuller person, you grow. No need to go back to rewrite the past, even if you can.

        Anyhow, I rest my case.

        The other thing I wanted to mention is that in those kinds of old societies back in ancient China, people didn’t usually go around carrying the “fight for your love!” slogan in their mouths. If a couple fell in love when they’re not supposed to, and everyone and everything else is against it, I also think the usual mentality that this kind of society could put in their heads (combined with their own feelings of helplessness and hopelessness) would be to choose death rather than to go on living for your love.

        In their first lifetime, Liufang and Zixuan made a lot of mistakes, and I think they both knew that in their third lifetime together. But that’s all part of their growth and learning as well (especially for Zixuan, but that’s another topic).

      • Chibi Jennifer says:
        June 26, 2010 at 9:41 am

        When I watched the scene, I actually wondered if the situation was bad enough that they were to jump off and die. Liufang being an individual should have the choice if he wants to be a priest or not- and since he chose to leave, can the elder monks really stop him? It’s not against the law… sure, you’ll be looked down upon in society but it’s nothing forbidden (Just look at Yeping when he quit)

        They argue that it’s “best” for him and that he cannot be with Zixuan because she’s a Nuwa descendant. But why can’t a Nuwa descendant fall in love and marry the man she loves? I thought one of the primary roles of a Nuwa was to give birth? If so, how can she if she technically can’t be with someone?

        And why did they want to capture Zixuan? If they *know* she is a descendant of the Nuwa, why capture her as if she’s some demon? In the later part of the drama, the humans capture both Zixuan and Changqing for witchcraft or something (and tried to burn them down), but its because they don’t know anything about them. Here, if they know she’s a Nuwa, why hunt her down? Because she’s “brainwashed” Liufang or because she burnt the place down?

  5. Trace says:
    June 26, 2010 at 10:12 am

    I thought I was the only one thinking those questions.

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